Relationship Advice

The Infatuation and Romance Stage The infatuation and romance stage is the first step in every relationship. I often call this stage the “mumu” period as the people in love don’t see things clearly and objectively.  Most often than none, the infatuation or romance period in a relationship is not more than two years. After this, the couples in love will start embracing reality.  In my opinion, the romance or infatuation period is like the false reality of love. Do you know why? The lovers fall in love with the belief that nothing could possibly go wrong.  They never see faults in each other’s flaws. All they do is to focus on each other’s good sides. During this time, you will hear statements like “I can never live without you” a lot. Oops! Don’t worry, reality will soon dawn on them.  Let me put it another way; during the romance period in a relationship, lovers are still victims of the lie that “relationships are perfect. All they strive to do at this stage is to cr...

The following ten points I'm going to state are extremely simple, yet people sometimes forget them:  1.) ASSIGN BOUNDARIES: if you're a big fan of PDA (public display of affection), make sure you create a line and not cross it. Whether you hold hands, kiss, lie on her lap, just do one of these and don't make it go overboard.  2.) PERSONAL SPACE IS IMPORTANT:  Make sure both of you give each other appropriate personal space.You're in a relationship, it doesn't mean you start creeping each other out.  3.) LOYALTY IS KEY Don't play hide and seek with their feelings. If you have done something wrong, come clean.  4.) A CLEAN PAST  Let's face it, everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives. So when you start a new relationship, make sure it's new in every aspect. Clear your past in front of your partner, so if some day some of your past demons wake up, nothing would decrease the love between you two and it will also strengthen their trust in you.  ...

We men have always said that women are the most complex creatures God has ever created. And some of us still hold this view. But when we hear women say that they do not understand us, we get shocked! Really?! We are the simplest creatures on the earth (you may choose not to agree though). Where you women have pages of things you expect of us, our list is quite simple. I mean very simple. Once you can understand what we want, you’ve struck gold. And yes, don’t assume to know what we want. Know it instead. When you do, you will be able to meet our needs. When you do, you will have made yourself too valuable to lose. So, here are eight things we really want in a relationship. 1. Be Independent: If you ask an average Naija guy, he would put it very bluntly thus: “stop demanding for money!” A young man cannot be trying to build his future and you keep demanding money from him incessantly. Nobody wants a leech. Be independent for yourself. Work with your own hands. Make your own money. Ta...

Whenever you meet a new woman you really like, there usually comes a phase where you can't stop thinking about her. No matter how much you want to distract yourself, she's always on your mind and it drives you crazy when you can't be with her. Now, unless she feels exactly like you, this relationship will head downhill pretty fast. For the sake of this article, let's avoid all the obvious reasons (like incompatibility, cheating, the lack of chemistry, wanting different things etc.) why most relationships usually fail. Instead, let's shift our focus on the male and his behavior. To be precise: how his behavior in the beginning stages of the relationship ruins it. For the majority of men, the start of the relationship will look something like this: boy meets girl, boy becomes mesmerized by the girl, girl notices his sudden change of behavior and starts to pull away, boy tries even harder to win her over, girl loses all interest and gives him the "let's just b...

#1 Give and take in love. You give to the relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or expectations of getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions. #2 Pure happiness . Just watching this special person smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard day. #3 Pain and anger. You get terribly hurt when your lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you. You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for long because staying mad or giving them the silent treatment hurts you more. #4 Sacrifices. You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing, even if they may never realize it. #5 The right effort. You go to great lengths and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special. #6 You can’t ever hurt them. When you’re truly in love with someone, you can...

If you haven’t had much luck in attracting mister right, you should know that there are some great guys out there just looking to meet someone such as yourself. Forget all the bad dates you’ve had – start from scratch and use these tips to meet someone amazing finally.  The Right Place at the Right Time So, the first thing you have to consider is where to meet Mr. Right. If you are bouncing around from one bad date to another, then there is a chance that you are looking in the wrong place. Planning ahead a little is often all it takes. If most of your dates come from the local bar or a particular online dating site, then the first thing you need to do is shake things up. Get out of your old habits and start a new routine. If something continues to produce bad results, chances are, it isn’t going to get any better. One of the best strategies you can adopt is to look for your guy in normal, everyday life situations. When you hang out in bars or surf shady dating sites, the chances of...

A lot of women just venture into relationship without having any slight knowledge about what they are into,they feel relationship is just about the I love you and I love you thing but the fact remains that relationship goes beyond that point. Today I will be giving out some tips,quotes and advice to help give you a better stand on what you are into. Listed below are 21 relationship tips and advice for all ladies. 1.When you keep calm as a lady, you drive him crazy, keeping him thinking that there is some thing peculiar about you. 2. When he sent you abusive message, do not reply back with abusive word, if you must reply. Write "am sorry". Or thank you. 2. No man liked to be talked back to. If you must be a wife material, just shut up. When he is calm, talk things over. 3. Don't be arrogant, be humble . 4. Don't be carried away by your beauty.. Have you not seen beautiful ladies that are still single till date? Your character keep him. Also Read: Five things a woman Ca...

  Understand Each Other's Needs "The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says. #2. Show Him Some Love Men whose partners give them affirmation -- those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved -- are twice as likely to describe themselves as happy in their relationship. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love...

We all know that relationships can be tough. They begin with an awkward dating period where both persons are on their best behavior. After a few months, those curtains start to unravel and you begin to see shadows of the real person. Men often make a number of relationship blunders during these crucial initial phases, and we're here to help you recognize the ten worst ones. If you're just getting started in a relationship, or part of a long-term affair, get pen and paper. (Or, you could just print it!). You'll want to keep track of these tips. Giving a woman too much power. Guys usually get into trouble when they allow a woman to have too much (if not all) of the control in a relationship. She decides when you go out; she decides when you have sex; she decides which friends you can keep; and may even decide what color slacks you should wear to a party. These types of scenarios are classic examples of a man believing that he doesn't deserve to be with a certain type of w...

1) INFATUATION - this is really the biggest problem. When you 'fall' in love, usually you are completely off balance, only seeing what you want to and putting so much pressure on the relationship too early. It's necessary to take a step back and regain your equilibrium. You need to think of the not so good side of that person as well as the great stuff. Balance! 2) EXPECTATIONS - often they are way too high and unrealistic in the beginning. You fell in love with a human being with all their 'faults' and good points, not a superbeing. 3) YOUR NEEDS - you realise that they don't actually meet your every need. So you feel disappointed and try to change them. Get real, no one person is ever going to meet your every need, it's not realistic. You may have to look elsewhere for your needs, e.g. friends who have a great sense of humour or share your love for doing your favourite hobby, etc. 4) APPRECIATION - your so busy demanding either inside your mind or out ...